Reflection on my worst flare-up experiences
When I look back at my worst eczema experiences, the most common pattern is that each flare-up happened in the winter, starting from November lasting throughout Christmas and into the New Year. They were all stress related due to situations that were going on in my personal life plus, the fact that eczema was worse during the winter months due to cold weather which can at times dry out my skin.
In summer 2013, I went through a stressful period within my job career. I had finally managed to secure my first paid HR role! But unfortunately, the role did not meet my expectations and I ended up leaving. I then applied for a temporary role, but again that wasn’t successful either. However, with all of the disappointments during that summer, I cannot recall me having any major eczema flare-ups.
However, I did experience a minor flare-up in 2017 during November and December. Fortunately, I was working again but my office had no windows or natural ventilation which irritated my skin. (I will go into this more in depth in another blog).
With each flare up my coping strategies were different. I’ve told these stories chronologically in three separate parts. In part one, I was at the age of 19, part 2 aged 24 in and in part 3 aged 28. Overall, I feel I was best able to handle the stress and challenges of my skin condition when I was 28 but, I don’t solely put this down to just age or maturity but because of my faith also. In 2012 I became a Christian (I talk about this in more depth in my ‘about me’ page). My faith was what kept me going combined with the support that I had from other people.
My faith has not only inspired me through my challenging times but has helped me throughout my journey/ongoing battle with eczema and I would like to share some scripture from the bible which helped me.
Firstly, I learnt that according to purpose all things work out for good (Rom 8:28). This was especially apparent when it came to me moving house. I was adamant that the timing was not right for me to move out due to a new job close to home, which caused me to complain and felt that life was just unfair. However, it worked out to be a blessing, as the house I was living in at that time was not in the best condition and, to be honest, was affecting my mental and physical health. Thankfully, I did eventually move out into a much better place.
This second one may sound strange however, I learnt how we should embrace and consider it great joy each time we go through bad times regardless of the circumstance (James 1:2-4). Our behaviour, beliefs and actions are being tested. Suffering and going through bad times also improves our character, and it helps us to develop and to persevere further.
Finally, when we do not become tired or fed up is when we will receive goodness as an end result (James 1: 12). During all of the flare-up experiences, I was suffering physically and emotionally. There were times when I became very discouraged. Even today sometimes I feel like giving up with trying out different things in order to reduce eczema symptoms but I am still persevering.
In all of my worst experiences, I really learnt how to stay strong and not let eczema control my everyday life. I truly hope this can encourage anyone who faces challenges going through flare-ups.
*If you have any questions or misunderstanding on anything, then please feel free to contact me. I have also listed the relevant verses below*
And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them
2 Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy.
3 For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.
4So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.
God blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. Afterward, they will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.